6 Social Fitness Tips
Gear up for party season! Learn how to be more likeable.
Life is a series of popularity contests. Like it or not, it’s true.
Being likeable means you have the ability to create positive attitudes in other people through the delivery of emotional and physical benefits to them. For some it seems to come naturally and for others it requires work.
Being likeable has its advantages. Not only do friendly people enjoy better health, have higher self-esteem, outperform in the workplace, motivate others and seem to overcome life’s challenges with more ease and less stress, they more often get the helping hand when they, too, need it.
So with San Diego’s party pace picking up over the spring and summer, it’s time to kick up your social fitness and build your likeability muscle. Here are some tips on how to do just that.
Make no room for unfriendliness. When you sense it bubbling up inside of yourself, talk yourself out of it immediately by asking yourself if being unfriendly will fix anything. It won’t. When you do act unfriendly, immediately repair it by apologizing.
Develop a “regardless” mindset. Play “greeter” for a day by making everyone you see feel welcome. Smile at everyone you pass, regardless of how you feel.
Communicate friendliness. If others don’t see you as friendly, you simply aren’t. Your facial expression, your eyes, your body language, your tone of voice, and the words you use all communicate friendliness.
Connect with the interests of others. Connect to something in everyone you know.
Volunteer to help others. When you do, don’t make a fuss about what you’ve done. Exceed their expectations when you do help.
Show an interest in how others feel. This includes recognizing what others feel, listening thoughtfully and responding to the emotions of others. Watch and study faces. Don’t jump to conclusions or assumptions about what others feel or “mean.”
There are so many ways to create likeability and we all have the potential to do so. I can’t promise these six tips will give you more Facebook friends or Twitter followers, but they will help you build more bridges, and less walls.